Monday, April 16, 2012

By necessity, this blog will be short. Why? Because once again, I have overextended myself.

Why are we afraid to say no? We accept it from others, but we tend to feel guilty when we say it. Why?
There is nothing pretty about martyrdom. Nothing honorable. If we do not start to care for ourselves, we soon will not have anything to give.

I don't know about you, but if I say I will do something, I will follow through. So, maybe I need to learn to accept that I can not do everything for everybody. Maybe I need to learn that saying no is not selfish.

I resolve to stop making promises at the expense of my own wants and, more importantly, needs. I resolve to step back and realize if I am only loved and respected for what I do for others, then that is neither love or respect.

So I will start to honour myself, and choose the projects I want to be involved in.

After all, it is just a matter of saying no.


  1. This is so true-there's nothing noble in martyrdom,and nothing wrong with taking care of ourselves like we do others.
    You're also so right about other people.If they only love and respect you because of what you do for them then they aren't showing you love or respect.
    Great post!

  2. That is a good question. I don't say no very often. So far working in the deli section I've only said no once when called in and that was because I had plans with stepdad and that issue with my hand was still going at the time. Other than that, only one I have no problem saying no to is my sister cause she likes to repeat herself over and over to annoy me. It's a good idea to know one's own limits and sometimes say no.


Thank you for sharing your thoughts.